Wednesday, 26 December 2018

10 Signs That God Is Warning You Not To Date Someone -By Tayo Demola (With Video)






10 Signs That God Is Warning You Not To Date Someone By Tayo Demola

1. If something strange happens each time you're to meet that makes it impossible for you to meet. 

2. If you caught him or her lying to you or hiding something vital to your relationship. 

3. If you lost your job or something terrible happened to you after meeting him or her you. 

4. If you always have bad dreams about him or her.

5. Your finances suddenly become negatively affected after meeting him or her. 

6. If everywhere you go you get messages indirectly warning you about the person.

7. If something in your heart feels he or she is not good for you. 

8.  If both of you hardly agree on anything.

9. If all your family and friends disapprove of him or her. 

10. If both of you have totally different beliefs and irreconcilable differences. 


Remain blessed.




Monday, 6 August 2018

Ten Cogent Reasons Why Having A Backup Boyfriend Is Dangerous For Women -By Tayo Demola

 Hi Ladies, this is for you! Many of you have recently sent me mails asking that I write more on relationships instead of on political issues. Well I will try and balance them both! Pls read the piece below & let me know what you think. Good luck!


I have often heard some people advising ladies to have backup boyfriends. This means that aside her primary or main boyfriend, a lady should have another boyfriend she may not necessarily be close to or intimate with as she could just be platonic friends with the so called backup boyfriend without strings attached. They argue that in case her current boyfriend disappoints her or fails to marry her, she will switch over to the backup boyfriend. 

Now let me tell you categorically that with my several years of experience as a counsellor, that this kind of advice from whoever gives you such depraved advice is completely wrong and if you adhere to such advice as a lady, you will only end up hurting yourself at the end of the day. 

Now today I will be sharing with you ten solid and proven reasons why as a lady you must never even contemplate having any backup boyfriend. Those who have done this have always regretted their actions. The reasons are as follows:

1. It Makes You Cheap As A Woman: Have you ever imagined how it feels as a lady to know that you have just one boyfriend and the peace of mind you will have to focus on your school, job or career knowing fully well that you are faithful to your guy? Have you ever imagined how cheap you will look to your boyfriend if he eventually finds out that you are double dating? Imagine the lies you would have to tell to cover up your unfaithfulness. Imagine the trust he had in you which you will shatter by doing so! You will simply look cheap as a lady and this will seriously affect your self worth as a woman. 

2. It Can Break Up Your Current Relationship: One thing some ladies fail to realize is that once trust is broken, it will be very difficult to get it back. Once your loving boyfriend who really trusted you before discovers you've been insincere with him all along, this can break your current relationship and even your backup boyfriend too may find out and also end the relationship and decide to have nothing to do with you. They will believe that once a cheat, always a cheat. 

3. It Leads To Having Multiple Sexual Partners: You may not know this but the more men you make friends with as a lady, the likelihood of developing and having feelings for them and eventually having sex with them even when you never intended this to happen. This is because sometimes the spirit is willing but the flesh is weak and as a result of this, you may be unable to control certain things at certain points in time and you may become overwhelmed and give in to certain demands by men especially as they can use their manly prowess to manipulate you to give in to their demands. This can eventually ruin your life. 

4. You May Contract STDs: One of the dangerous effects of having spare or backup boyfriends as a lady is that since the likelihood of having sex with them is high, so also the likelihood of contracting deadly sexually transmitted diseases which can eventually destroy your life beyond repair and render all your years of struggle useless and likewise even destroy your future. Some STDs actually don't even have known cure while others are so deadly that they're difficult to detect and those who have them could carry them for many years and would continue to spread these diseases to others through sex. 

5. It Will Exhaust Your Energy, Time & Resources: Having a backup or spare boyfriend does not come as easy as you think. It will surely make you lose concentration in your school, career or job because you will be trying to please each of them because you are hoping that one of them will propose marriage to you which may never even happen in the first place. You will keep wasting your energy, your time and your resources including money for calls, text messages, data subscriptions for browsing on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and Whatsapp just to keep in touch with the both of your boyfriends at the same time. Sometimes you will be confused on how to handle this type of relationship and it will even make you less productive because you're facing too many commitments at the same time. Please desist from this type of relationship that can kill you. 

6. It Can Lead To Everlasting Heartbreaks: One thing many ladies fail to realize in relationships is that you can't eat your cake and have it back, no way! If you think you will keep flirting about with men and expect not to have the consequences of your actions, you are simply deceiving yourself. By keeping multiple men as your boyfriends, you are simply creating a channel for everlasting heartbreak for yourself which can happen anytime. Have you ever wondered why some beautiful ladies you thought already had boyfriends but when you get close to them you will discover they don't have any? Some of them had multiple boyfriends before and these guys having discovered, they jilted them and the ladies now don't have any men coming for them because of their past deeds. Be careful how you live your life as a lady, it can affect your future.

7. You Can Never Truly Love Anyone By Having Multiple Boyfriends: It will definitely be impossible for you to truly fall in love or love a guy when you have many guys you're dating. There will surely be conflict of interest and you will be confused on who to actually give your love to. You can never love both guys the same way and by trying to share your love between the both of them, you will end up not loving anyone of them enough and this will surely crash your relationship and you will lose out of both relationships in the long run. Be careful as a lady, not all that glitters is gold.

8. It Can Affect You Psychologically: You may not know the effect of some actions you take as a lady, but when the consequences of your actions start manifesting, you will begin to regret your actions and by then it might be difficult to reverse such actions because it would have been too late. The fact is that the state of your relationship can seriously affect your feelings, emotions, your thinking and as well as your total state of mind. Women are very emotional and as a woman, you must not allow any negative thing affect your mind or else if this happens, it can lead to psychological trauma.

9. It Can Lead To Depression: People that had depression didn't just start it suddenly, no, it's an accumulated bout of pains, sorrow, suffering and trauma that led them to the state of depression they found themselves. These issues are linked together because when you continue to have multiple boyfriends as a lady, heartbreak will eventually happen and when this happens, depression is inevitable in that circumstance especially when you continue to have frequent heartbreaks.

10. It Can Ruin Your Destiny: Many ladies who sell their bodies by having several boyfriends all in the name of having fun don't know the harm they're doing to their destinies. Many ladies in Nigeria today have been used for money rituals by men just because these ladies keep flirting with different men and hopping from one bed to another. Many of these ladies too have been destroyed spiritually by men who slept with them and that's why many women would get married but would never bear children. Some women would give birth but would actually give birth to imbeciles and deformed children because of the kind of things they've done in the past and the kind of people they've knowingly or unknowingly mingled with in the past who have now destroyed their destinies. Ladies be warned, wait for your time. Stop rushing and stop having side boyfriends or backup boyfriends because it is dangerous to do so. Be warned. A word is enough for the wise. This is wishing all you ladies the best in your relationships and wishing that you get the right man that will love you with all his heart and make you happy! God bless you. 

If you want to talk to me, just holla me a mail below. All the best! 

By Tayo Demola

Human Rights Activist & Relationship Coach

 

Tuesday, 31 July 2018

Buhari's Continued Ineptitude & The Way Forward For Nigeria -By Tayo Demola




The situation Nigerians have found themselves now is not what they expected from the Buhari government. The situation of things in Nigeria presently is still shocking to many Nigerians and a mystery to all those who unanimously gave their unalloyed support to Buhari in order to make him president with the expectation that he would turn Nigeria around for the better but what has Buhari done today? He has simply made Nigeria worse than he met it and ended up turning the country into a banana republic where laws and court orders are flagrantly disobeyed with impunity and ended up impoverishing the life of an average Nigerian. 

I know quite alright that many newspapers and media outfits would never publish this type of article because it is very clear that many media organizations have been compromised in Nigeria. The media has been gagged by the Buhari government. The media has been caged and boxed to a corner where they are now afraid of what the government will do to them and their outfits and so they refrain from anything that will antagonize the government. But for how long are we going to continue to fold our hands and watch while an incompetent government keeps toiling with the lives of the Nigerian people and generations yet unborn? Remember that this is a government that told us to choose between cattle colony or death and wants to compel us to lose our ancestral heritage to the fulani herds men cattle ranching ideology. 

But for how long are we going to continue to be intimidated and harassed into silence by an autocratic government that takes the people for granted and continues to inflict pains, sorrow and suffering on the citizens of Nigeria? For how long are we going to continue to watch while our people are slaughtered in broad daylight by some marauders and sacred cows with tacit endorsement from a government that swore to a constitutional oath to protect the citizens of Nigeria but failed to do so? 

For how long are we going to continue to fear the unknown and be intimidated by this government? It seems Nigerians have now been bullied to resign to their fate and watch helplessly while the Buhari government keeps perpetrating all sorts of injustice, constitutional breaches and impunity without being answerable to the Nigerian people. Remember that Gani Fawehinmi and Fela both of blessed memories were bullied, intimidated and harassed for standing up for the people and for saying the truth to the government, yet they never gave up and were never deterred irrespective of all attempts by the government and their obnoxious collaborators to silence them from saying the truth. 

We must never shy away from saying the truth irrespective of whose ox is gored or else Nigeria will never make any headway with all these numerous challenges confronting the nation. The Nigerian people must stand up and fight for their rights and heritage or else the Buhari government will annihilate the will of the people and keep them on perpetual subjugation. It is very clear that this is an anti people government that is hell bent on perpetrating itself in power despite its woeful performance and failure to ameliorate the acute sufferings of the Nigerian people. But Nigerians must resist any attempt by Buhari and his cohorts to perpetrate themselves in office. Nigerians must join hands to send Buhari back to Daura where he rightly belongs. 

When Buhari was presented to all of us, we though that by now Nigeria would have witnessed a drastic and positive change but the reverse is the case. We thought that we have found a messiah who would improve the living standards of the people but he ended up increasing the suffering of the masses of Nigeria. It is very clear that the Buhari government is very desperate to remain in power to continue to enslave Nigerians but all Nigerians must resist it and ensure that we all vote out Buhari in 2019 to avoid subjugating our future and the future of our children and generations yet unborn. 

But come to think of it. If the Buhari government can inflict so much pain, sorrow and suffering on the masses of Nigeria in its first term in office, imagine what Buhari will do if he eventually comes back for second term. We can all be sure that it will be hell for the Nigerian people if Buhari is ever allowed to come back in 2019. You can imagine what he will do if he eventually gets a second term ticket to rule Nigeria again. We must not allow this to happen or else Nigeria will be doomed by this incompetent, tribalistic, desperate and autocratic leader. 

The Senate President Bukola Saraki has been harassed and pushed to defect to the opposition People's Democratic Party (PDP) just like many other senators have defected from the ruling All Progressives Congress (APC). This is an attestation to the fact that the Buhari government has lost its bearing not only on its own party people but also on the entire country and this government must be shown the way out of office in 2019 because this is not the type of government that can take Nigeria to the promised land. The Buhari government has only ended up dragging Nigeria backwards and we don't yet know the serious damage this government has done to us until many years to come before we would realize it. 

But we must take action and obtain our voter's cards and ensure that we vote out Buhari and his cohorts on election day 2019 and we must equally stand up and protect our votes and our future by ensuring that the election is free and fair and not tactically rigged by this government in order to perpetrate itself in power. We must ensure that we are never swayed or influenced by money to vote for the wrong person who will come up to sell our future and subjugate our collective ancestral heritage and patrimony. We must never allow this to happen. We must all stand up and fight for our future and the future of our present and future generations and avoid any conspiracy against our collective will. Since we trusted Buhari so much and allowed him to rule Nigeria the second time by voting him into power in 2015 and having unrepentantly betrayed that trust we reposed in him, we must never allow him come back to rule Nigeria the third time again because he has shown clearly that he cannot be trusted with the destiny of Nigerians. 

If Nigerians make the mistake of electing Buhari to come back in 2019, Nigerians will surely regret such action just as right now we keep regretting ever voting for him in 2015. The way forward is that Nigerians must change this government through the ballot box in 2019. What we need is a leader who will turn Nigeria around for good. To do this, we must first of all subject all presidential aspirants to a compulsory live debate for every aspirant to showcase whatever they have to offer Nigerians on national television and any aspirant who fails to honour this debate should be disqualified from contesting. 

Buhari is known to shun debates of this nature or even the usual presidential media chat. Is this the type of leader we want? Former president Goodluck Jonathan usually had regular media chats where he interacted with the media and with Nigerians on various issues of national importance but since when has Buhari ever had any such chat with the people of Nigeria? Since when has he deemed it fit to honour Nigerians by letting them ask him pertinent questions about the nation on live national television? Is this the type of leader we want beyond 2019? No, this is not the type of leader we want because Nigerians deserve a better leader who will improve their lives and turn the nation around positively within a reasonable period of time. 

We don't need a president who will drag us fifty years backwards like Buhari has done to Nigeria but an action president who will solve Nigeria's mounting problems within a reasonably short period of time without having to dilly dally and continuously blame past leaders for the problems for which he was elected to fix in the first place. No, that is not the type of leader Nigeria needs. We need not just a president who says what should be done but someone who matches his words with action and also takes such action at the right time when such action should be taken for the interest of the nation. The way forward is that Nigerians should ensure that Buhari is voted out of office so that this nation can know peace and so that we would not mortgage our future and the future of generations yet unborn to the cluelessness of this inept government that cannot take Nigeria anywhere. God bless Nigeria. 

By Tayo Demola 

Human Rights Activist 

Creating Jobs In Nigeria Through Entrepreneurship Development -By Tayo Demola





The Nigerian economy is a leading economic hub not only in the West African Sub-region but also in the entire African continent as a promising destination for investment opportunities for individuals, corporate organizations, blue chip companies and other multinationals that continuously see the Nigerian economy as an investment haven. While the activities of most of these companies have aided job creation for a section of the teeming youths, it is glaring that concerted efforts are required by all stakeholders to stem the tide of unemployment in Nigeria.

Nigerians are very enterprising and hard working people who can turn any opportunity into a money making venture. Nigerian youths are equally very hard working and can easily convert any given opportunity to make money for themselves and better their lives even when it is obvious that the government has done little or nothing to harness the potentials of these teeming youths and develop them for the good of the nation. If Nigerians can be so enterprising to turn any opportunity to a money making venture, then imagine what they would do if the government provides the enabling
and conducive environment for them to thrive. Imagine what they would do if the government makes it a point of duty to provide massive job opportunities for the people of Nigeria without paying mere lip service to the issue of creating jobs. 

One of the easiest and surest ways to combat poverty in any economy is through job creation. When people have jobs, the effect is that they would be able to fend for themselves and their families and ultimately improve their standard of living as well as become    useful for the development of their immediate communities. The essence of job creation can never be over emphasized in the quest for economic development of any modern nation and for Nigeria as a nation which hopes to be among the top developed economies in the world, this dream is realizable if job creation is duly given adequate priority by all stakeholders to ensure that massive job opportunities are created to engage the vibrant youths who are willing to work and also possess ideas that can make the desired changes in many organizations if given the opportunity.

Nigeria can be described as a nation with a mass of unutilized manpower that keeps wasting away in various parts of the nation without being tapped for the benefit of the nation. Hundreds of thousands of graduates are churned out yearly from various tertiary institutions in Nigeria many of whom remain jobless for several years after graduation. But it is an undeniable fact that the future of the nation lies in the youths because they hold the potentials for a lasting change and sustainable development that can move Nigeria forward. With a massive population unrivalled in the entire African continent, Nigeria has a potential of becoming a world economic power in the nearest future if its resources are efficiently harnessed to full potentials and most importantly if its human capital base is developed to full capacity.

Entrepreneurship is a veritable source of employment and wealth creation for Nigerians who desire to create wealth for themselves by starting a business of their own and nurturing it to maturity. A business empire can be created by starting small and working hard enough to maintain the business and making it grow through various stages. Many big companies in Nigeria today started small many years ago and their founders were committed in their pursuit and persevered until the businesses grew into world class brands.

Despite the challenges, Nigeria is a beautiful place to do business that any entrepreneurial minded person can succeed in business if they are willing to start something no matter how difficult it may seem at first. The most difficult aspect is in starting the business. As soon as you start, however turbulent it may be, you will begin to learn the ropes as you continue to nurture your business and sooner or later, the business will begin to make headway a long as you persevere.

To grow the Nigerian economy to a level that it would begin to compete with world class economies such as that of the US, Britain, China, Japan and other economically developed nations, entrepreneurship and job creation must be given top priority by all stakeholders. While the government holds the ace in this regard as it is expected to continuously formulate policies that will create a favourable atmosphere for businesses to thrive, it is pertinent to state that the Nigerian youths who form the bulk of the active population should be reorientated from the mentality of job hunting to job creation. If every Nigerian graduate can create at least one job opportunity for himself and is able to make a living out of this, then the problem of unemployment will be drastically reduced to the barest minimum and this will greatly reduce dependence on government to create jobs as well as reduce insecurity, armed banditry, kidnapping and other violent crimes in the country.

For Nigerians to create jobs for themselves as well as for others, there has to be that entrepreneurial spirit in them that will propel every person to think about what he or she can do for the nation and not what the nation can do for them. It is possible for Nigeria to get to that level where every citizen will have that entrepreneurially creative spirit to create jobs and make wealth for themselves for the betterment of the nation. But to do this, there must be an enabling policy to drive that consciousness into the people from cradle. What this means is that it is not enough to have entrepreneurship introduced as a course in the tertiary institutions in Nigeria, it must also a matter of necessity be introduced to pupils right from the primary schools so that students can learn how to be enterprising right from childhood. By so doing, we would inevitably instill entrepreneurship skills into our future generation by catching them young and directing their mentality towards a worthy cause that would eventually create wealth for the nation and propel Nigeria into economic and political greatness in the comity of nations.

For many who have tried to start or run their own businesses but ended up not realizing this dream, it can be so frustrating. But as I said earlier, Nigeria is such a beautiful place to do business that you will always succeed if you don’t give up and if you are willing to keep trying. Nobody sets up a business to fail but sometimes what makes some businesses fail in Nigeria is because they cannot access the finance required to run or expand their business operations. Many enterprising Nigerians have excellent business ideas and plans but cannot actualize their dreams of setting up businesses of their choice and creating job opportunities for themselves as well as for others just because they have no access to funding to start these promising businesses that would have grown to become world class brands in the nearest future. Banks in Nigeria are reluctant or unwilling to give loans to start-ups and where they do, the resultant high interest rates and the issue of collateral are discouraging for would-be entrepreneurs. The Central Bank of Nigeria (CBN) should formulate a policy where Banks are required to give interest-free loans without cut-throat requirements to viable business ventures and ideas including start-ups to encourage the establishment of small and medium scale enterprises which constitute the engine of the economy.

Aside the challenge posed by lack of finance, Nigeria is still grappling with inadequate infrastructure which hampers business ventures and entrepreneurial development. Many towns and cities experience erratic power supply and this hampers business growth. Power must be improved to encourage people to venture into business ventures and create jobs. In the same vein, several parts of the nation have poor road network which slows business down leading to heavy loss of man hours which would have been converted to wealth.  The government has a duty to rehabilitate interconnecting road networks and also to link up more communities by constructing more roads to fast track business activities.

To stem the tide of perennial unemployment in the nation, various governments have at various times set up entrepreneurship and empowerment programs for the youths in several parts of the country and it is said that many youths have benefitted from these programs but due to the problem of corruption and impunity, many of these gestures have not really benefited the people they are meant for. Also, the Nigerian population is growing at a geometric rate and these efforts by governments appear insignificant in the quest to reduce youth unemployment and restiveness to the barest minimum. To tackle unemployment and create lasting job opportunities for the youths, there is the need for a policy shift by government towards massive employment generation as well as the reorientation of the average Nigerian on the need to imbibe entrepreneurship spirit in order to create jobs and diversify the economy. 

China is now a technological world giant and a conduit through which finished goods are manufactured and exported to various countries of the world. But China did not just achieve this feat overnight. It took several years of planning by the government, massive funding and investments and their continuous encouragement of business enterprises and entrepreneurship by their citizens. Nigeria can do same if the government can continuously create that enabling environment for businesses and entrepreneurship in the country. Nigeria has great untapped potentials and we have the potential to be like China and even better than them if only we have the right governments who would make drastic changes to the nation and make the right sacrifices that will benefit the nation. 

Entrepreneurship is undeniably a potential source of wealth for both individuals and the nation and if properly harnessed, it has the capacity to engage the youths and provide employment for a vast majority of the populace thereby reducing crime, insecurity and youth restiveness. If we can develop and nurture our entrepreneurial skills, with the the enabling environment and the right support from the government, we will sooner or later create lasting wealth not only for ourselves but also for the future generation. Nigeria will succeed.


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