Sunday, 9 December 2018
Monday, 6 August 2018
Ten Cogent Reasons Why Having A Backup Boyfriend Is Dangerous For Women -By Tayo Demola
Hi Ladies, this is for you! Many of you have recently sent me mails asking that I write more on relationships instead of on political issues. Well I will try and balance them both! Pls read the piece below & let me know what you think. Good luck!
I
have often heard some people advising ladies to have backup boyfriends.
This means that aside her primary or main boyfriend, a lady should have
another boyfriend she may not necessarily be close to or intimate with
as she could just be platonic friends with the so called backup
boyfriend without strings attached. They argue that in case her current
boyfriend disappoints her or fails to marry her, she will switch over to
the backup boyfriend.
Now
let me tell you categorically that with my several years of experience
as a counsellor, that this kind of advice from whoever gives you such
depraved advice is completely wrong and if you adhere to such advice as a
lady, you will only end up hurting yourself at the end of the day.
Now
today I will be sharing with you ten solid and proven reasons why as a
lady you must never even contemplate having any backup boyfriend. Those
who have done this have always regretted their actions. The reasons are
as follows:
1. It Makes
You Cheap As A Woman: Have you ever imagined how it feels as a lady to
know that you have just one boyfriend and the peace of mind you will
have to focus on your school, job or career knowing fully well that you
are faithful to your guy? Have you ever imagined how cheap you will look
to your boyfriend if he eventually finds out that you are double
dating? Imagine the lies you would have to tell to cover up your
unfaithfulness. Imagine the trust he had in you which you will shatter
by doing so! You will simply look cheap as a lady and this will
seriously affect your self worth as a woman.
2.
It Can Break Up Your Current Relationship: One thing some ladies fail
to realize is that once trust is broken, it will be very difficult to
get it back. Once your loving boyfriend who really trusted you before
discovers you've been insincere with him all along, this can break your
current relationship and even your backup boyfriend too may find out and
also end the relationship and decide to have nothing to do with you.
They will believe that once a cheat, always a cheat.
3.
It Leads To Having Multiple Sexual Partners: You may not know this but
the more men you make friends with as a lady, the likelihood of
developing and having feelings for them and eventually having sex with
them even when you never intended this to happen. This is because
sometimes the spirit is willing but the flesh is weak and as a result of
this, you may be unable to control certain things at certain points in
time and you may become overwhelmed and give in to certain demands by
men especially as they can use their manly prowess to manipulate you to
give in to their demands. This can eventually ruin your life.
4.
You May Contract STDs: One of the dangerous effects of having spare or
backup boyfriends as a lady is that since the likelihood of having sex
with them is high, so also the likelihood of contracting deadly sexually
transmitted diseases which can eventually destroy your life beyond
repair and render all your years of struggle useless and likewise even
destroy your future. Some STDs actually don't even have known cure while
others are so deadly that they're difficult to detect and those who
have them could carry them for many years and would continue to spread
these diseases to others through sex.
5.
It Will Exhaust Your Energy, Time & Resources: Having a backup or
spare boyfriend does not come as easy as you think. It will surely make
you lose concentration in your school, career or job because you will be
trying to please each of them because you are hoping that one of them
will propose marriage to you which may never even happen in the first
place. You will keep wasting your energy, your time and your resources
including money for calls, text messages, data subscriptions for
browsing on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and Whatsapp just to keep in
touch with the both of your boyfriends at the same time. Sometimes you
will be confused on how to handle this type of relationship and it will
even make you less productive because you're facing too many commitments
at the same time. Please desist from this type of relationship that can
kill you.
6. It Can
Lead To Everlasting Heartbreaks: One thing many ladies fail to realize
in relationships is that you can't eat your cake and have it back, no
way! If you think you will keep flirting about with men and expect not
to have the consequences of your actions, you are simply deceiving
yourself. By keeping multiple men as your boyfriends, you are simply
creating a channel for everlasting heartbreak for yourself which can
happen anytime. Have you ever wondered why some beautiful ladies you
thought already had boyfriends but when you get close to them you will
discover they don't have any? Some of them had multiple boyfriends
before and these guys having discovered, they jilted them and the ladies
now don't have any men coming for them because of their past deeds. Be
careful how you live your life as a lady, it can affect your future.
7.
You Can Never Truly Love Anyone By Having Multiple Boyfriends: It will
definitely be impossible for you to truly fall in love or love a guy
when you have many guys you're dating. There will surely be conflict of
interest and you will be confused on who to actually give your love to.
You can never love both guys the same way and by trying to share your
love between the both of them, you will end up not loving anyone of them
enough and this will surely crash your relationship and you will lose
out of both relationships in the long run. Be careful as a lady, not all
that glitters is gold.
8.
It Can Affect You Psychologically: You may not know the effect of some
actions you take as a lady, but when the consequences of your actions
start manifesting, you will begin to regret your actions and by then it
might be difficult to reverse such actions because it would have been
too late. The fact is that the state of your relationship can seriously
affect your feelings, emotions, your thinking and as well as your total
state of mind. Women are very emotional and as a woman, you must not
allow any negative thing affect your mind or else if this happens, it
can lead to psychological trauma.
9.
It Can Lead To Depression: People that had depression didn't just start
it suddenly, no, it's an accumulated bout of pains, sorrow, suffering
and trauma that led them to the state of depression they found themselves.
These issues are linked together because when you continue to have
multiple boyfriends as a lady, heartbreak will eventually happen and
when this happens, depression is inevitable in that circumstance
especially when you continue to have frequent heartbreaks.
10.
It Can Ruin Your Destiny: Many ladies who sell their bodies by having
several boyfriends all in the name of having fun don't know the harm
they're doing to their destinies. Many ladies in Nigeria today have been
used for money rituals by men just because these ladies keep flirting
with different men and hopping from one bed to another. Many of these
ladies too have been destroyed spiritually by men who slept with them
and that's why many women would get married but would never bear
children. Some women would give birth but would actually give birth to
imbeciles and deformed children because of the kind of things they've
done in the past and the kind of people they've knowingly or unknowingly
mingled with in the past who have now destroyed their destinies. Ladies
be warned, wait for your time. Stop rushing and stop having side
boyfriends or backup boyfriends because it is dangerous to do so. Be
warned. A word is enough for the wise. This is wishing all you ladies
the best in your relationships and wishing that you get the right man
that will love you with all his heart and make you happy! God bless
you.
If you want to talk to me, just holla me a mail below. All the best!
By Tayo Demola
Human Rights Activist & Relationship Coach
Email: tayodemola@gmail.com
Tuesday, 31 July 2018
Buhari's Continued Ineptitude & The Way Forward For Nigeria -By Tayo Demola
The
situation Nigerians have found themselves now is not what they expected
from the Buhari government. The situation of things in Nigeria
presently is still shocking to many Nigerians and a mystery to all those
who unanimously gave their unalloyed support to Buhari in order to make
him president with the expectation that he would turn Nigeria around
for the better but what has Buhari done today? He has simply made
Nigeria worse than he met it and ended up turning the country into a
banana republic where laws and court orders are flagrantly disobeyed
with impunity and ended up impoverishing the life of an average
Nigerian.
I know quite
alright that many newspapers and media outfits would never publish this
type of article because it is very clear that many media organizations
have been compromised in Nigeria. The media has been gagged by the
Buhari government. The media has been caged and boxed to a corner where
they are now afraid of what the government will do to them and their
outfits and so they refrain from anything that will antagonize the
government. But for how long are we going to continue to fold our hands
and watch while an incompetent government keeps toiling with the lives
of the Nigerian people and generations yet unborn? Remember that this is
a government that told us to choose between cattle colony or death and
wants to compel us to lose our ancestral heritage to the fulani herds
men cattle ranching ideology.
But
for how long are we going to continue to be intimidated and harassed
into silence by an autocratic government that takes the people for
granted and continues to inflict pains, sorrow and suffering on the
citizens of Nigeria? For how long are we going to continue to watch
while our people are slaughtered in broad daylight by some marauders and
sacred cows with tacit endorsement from a government that swore to a
constitutional oath to protect the citizens of Nigeria but failed to do
so?
For how long are we
going to continue to fear the unknown and be intimidated by this
government? It seems Nigerians have now been bullied to resign to their
fate and watch helplessly while the Buhari government keeps perpetrating
all sorts of injustice, constitutional breaches and impunity without
being answerable to the Nigerian people. Remember that Gani Fawehinmi
and Fela both of blessed memories were bullied, intimidated and harassed
for standing up for the people and for saying the truth to the
government, yet they never gave up and were never deterred irrespective
of all attempts by the government and their obnoxious collaborators to
silence them from saying the truth.
We
must never shy away from saying the truth irrespective of whose ox is
gored or else Nigeria will never make any headway with all these
numerous challenges confronting the nation. The Nigerian people must
stand up and fight for their rights and heritage or else the Buhari
government will annihilate the will of the people and keep them on
perpetual subjugation. It is very clear that this is an anti people
government that is hell bent on perpetrating itself in power despite its
woeful performance and failure to ameliorate the acute sufferings of
the Nigerian people. But Nigerians must resist any attempt by Buhari and
his cohorts to perpetrate themselves in office. Nigerians must join
hands to send Buhari back to Daura where he rightly belongs.
When
Buhari was presented to all of us, we though that by now Nigeria would
have witnessed a drastic and positive change but the reverse is the
case. We thought that we have found a messiah who would improve the
living standards of the people but he ended up increasing the suffering
of the masses of Nigeria. It is very clear that the Buhari government is
very desperate to remain in power to continue to enslave Nigerians but
all Nigerians must resist it and ensure that we all vote out Buhari in
2019 to avoid subjugating our future and the future of our children and
generations yet unborn.
But
come to think of it. If the Buhari government can inflict so much pain,
sorrow and suffering on the masses of Nigeria in its first term in
office, imagine what Buhari will do if he eventually comes back for
second term. We can all be sure that it will be hell for the Nigerian
people if Buhari is ever allowed to come back in 2019. You can imagine
what he will do if he eventually gets a second term ticket to rule
Nigeria again. We must not allow this to happen or else Nigeria will be
doomed by this incompetent, tribalistic, desperate and autocratic
leader.
The Senate
President Bukola Saraki has been harassed and pushed to defect to the
opposition People's Democratic Party (PDP) just like many other senators
have defected from the ruling All Progressives Congress (APC). This is
an attestation to the fact that the Buhari government has lost its
bearing not only on its own party people but also on the entire country
and this government must be shown the way out of office in 2019 because
this is not the type of government that can take Nigeria to the promised
land. The Buhari government has only ended up dragging Nigeria
backwards and we don't yet know the serious damage this government has
done to us until many years to come before we would realize it.
But
we must take action and obtain our voter's cards and ensure that we
vote out Buhari and his cohorts on election day 2019 and we must equally
stand up and protect our votes and our future by ensuring that the
election is free and fair and not tactically rigged by this government
in order to perpetrate itself in power. We must ensure that we are never
swayed or influenced by money to vote for the wrong person who will come
up to sell our future and subjugate our collective ancestral heritage
and patrimony. We must never allow this to happen. We must all stand up
and fight for our future and the future of our present and future
generations and avoid any conspiracy against our collective will. Since
we trusted Buhari so much and allowed him to rule Nigeria the second
time by voting him into power in 2015 and having unrepentantly betrayed
that trust we reposed in him, we must never allow him come back to rule
Nigeria the third time again because he has shown clearly that he cannot
be trusted with the destiny of Nigerians.
If
Nigerians make the mistake of electing Buhari to come back in 2019,
Nigerians will surely regret such action just as right now we keep
regretting ever voting for him in 2015. The way forward is that
Nigerians must change this government through the ballot box in 2019.
What we need is a leader who will turn Nigeria around for good. To do
this, we must first of all subject all presidential aspirants to a
compulsory live debate for every aspirant to showcase whatever they have
to offer Nigerians on national television and any aspirant who fails to
honour this debate should be disqualified from contesting.
Buhari
is known to shun debates of this nature or even the usual presidential
media chat. Is this the type of leader we want? Former president
Goodluck Jonathan usually had regular media chats where he interacted
with the media and with Nigerians on various issues of national
importance but since when has Buhari ever had any such chat with the
people of Nigeria? Since when has he deemed it fit to honour Nigerians
by letting them ask him pertinent questions about the nation on live
national television? Is this the type of leader we want beyond 2019? No,
this is not the type of leader we want because Nigerians deserve a
better leader who will improve their lives and turn the nation around
positively within a reasonable period of time.
We
don't need a president who will drag us fifty years backwards like
Buhari has done to Nigeria but an action president who will solve
Nigeria's mounting problems within a reasonably short period of time
without having to dilly dally and continuously blame past leaders for
the problems for which he was elected to fix in the first place. No, that is not the type of leader Nigeria needs. We need not just a
president who says what should be done but someone who matches his words
with action and also takes such action at the right time when such
action should be taken for the interest of the nation. The way forward
is that Nigerians should ensure that Buhari is voted out of office so
that this nation can know peace and so that we would not mortgage our
future and the future of generations yet unborn to the cluelessness of
this inept government that cannot take Nigeria anywhere. God bless
Nigeria.
By Tayo Demola
Human Rights Activist
Creating Jobs In Nigeria Through Entrepreneurship Development -By Tayo Demola
The
Nigerian economy is a leading economic hub not only in the West African
Sub-region but also in the entire African continent as a promising
destination for investment opportunities for individuals, corporate
organizations, blue chip companies and other multinationals that
continuously see the Nigerian economy as an investment haven. While the
activities of most of these companies have aided job creation for a
section of the teeming youths, it is glaring that concerted efforts are
required by all stakeholders to stem the tide of unemployment in
Nigeria.
Nigerians are
very enterprising and hard working people who can turn any opportunity
into a money making venture. Nigerian youths are equally very hard
working and can easily convert any given opportunity to make money for
themselves and better their lives even when it is obvious that the
government has done little or nothing to harness the potentials of these
teeming youths and develop them for the good of the nation. If
Nigerians can be so enterprising to turn any opportunity to a money
making venture, then imagine what they would do if the government
provides the enabling
and conducive environment for
them to thrive. Imagine what they would do if the government makes it a
point of duty to provide massive job opportunities for the people of
Nigeria without paying mere lip service to the issue of creating jobs.
One
of the easiest and surest ways to combat poverty in any economy is
through job creation. When people have jobs, the effect is that they
would be able to fend for themselves and their families and ultimately
improve their standard of living as well as become useful for the
development of their immediate communities. The essence of job creation
can never be over emphasized in the quest for economic development of
any modern nation and for Nigeria as a nation which hopes to be among
the top developed economies in the world, this dream is realizable if
job creation is duly given adequate priority by all stakeholders to
ensure that massive job opportunities are created to engage the vibrant
youths who are willing to work and also possess ideas that can make the
desired changes in many organizations if given the opportunity.
Nigeria
can be described as a nation with a mass of unutilized manpower that
keeps wasting away in various parts of the nation without being tapped
for the benefit of the nation. Hundreds of thousands of graduates are
churned out yearly from various tertiary institutions in Nigeria many of
whom remain jobless for several years after graduation. But it is an
undeniable fact that the future of the nation lies in the youths because
they hold the potentials for a lasting change and sustainable
development that can move Nigeria forward. With a massive population
unrivalled in the entire African continent, Nigeria has a potential of
becoming a world economic power in the nearest future if its resources
are efficiently harnessed to full potentials and most importantly if its
human capital base is developed to full capacity.
Entrepreneurship
is a veritable source of employment and wealth creation for Nigerians
who desire to create wealth for themselves by starting a business of
their own and nurturing it to maturity. A business empire can be created
by starting small and working hard enough to maintain the business and
making it grow through various stages. Many big companies in Nigeria
today started small many years ago and their founders were committed in
their pursuit and persevered until the businesses grew into world class
brands.
Despite the
challenges, Nigeria is a beautiful place to do business that any
entrepreneurial minded person can succeed in business if they are
willing to start something no matter how difficult it may seem at first.
The most difficult aspect is in starting the business. As soon as you
start, however turbulent it may be, you will begin to learn the ropes as
you continue to nurture your business and sooner or later, the business
will begin to make headway a long as you persevere.
To
grow the Nigerian economy to a level that it would begin to compete
with world class economies such as that of the US, Britain, China, Japan
and other economically developed nations, entrepreneurship and job
creation must be given top priority by all stakeholders. While the
government holds the ace in this regard as it is expected to
continuously formulate policies that will create a favourable atmosphere
for businesses to thrive, it is pertinent to state that the Nigerian
youths who form the bulk of the active population should be reorientated
from the mentality of job hunting to job creation. If every Nigerian
graduate can create at least one job opportunity for himself and is able
to make a living out of this, then the problem of unemployment will be
drastically reduced to the barest minimum and this will greatly reduce
dependence on government to create jobs as well as reduce insecurity,
armed banditry, kidnapping and other violent crimes in the country.
For
Nigerians to create jobs for themselves as well as for others, there
has to be that entrepreneurial spirit in them that will propel every
person to think about what he or she can do for the nation and not what
the nation can do for them. It is possible for Nigeria to get to that
level where every citizen will have that entrepreneurially creative
spirit to create jobs and make wealth for themselves for the betterment
of the nation. But to do this, there must be an enabling policy to drive
that consciousness into the people from cradle. What this means is that
it is not enough to have entrepreneurship introduced as a course in the
tertiary institutions in Nigeria, it must also a matter of necessity be
introduced to pupils right from the primary schools so that students
can learn how to be enterprising right from childhood. By so doing, we
would inevitably instill entrepreneurship skills into our future
generation by catching them young and directing their mentality towards a
worthy cause that would eventually create wealth for the nation and
propel Nigeria into economic and political greatness in the comity of
nations.
For many who
have tried to start or run their own businesses but ended up not
realizing this dream, it can be so frustrating. But as I said earlier,
Nigeria is such a beautiful place to do business that you will always
succeed if you don’t give up and if you are willing to keep trying.
Nobody sets up a business to fail but sometimes what makes some
businesses fail in Nigeria is because they cannot access the finance
required to run or expand their business operations. Many enterprising
Nigerians have excellent business ideas and plans but cannot actualize
their dreams of setting up businesses of their choice and creating job
opportunities for themselves as well as for others just because they
have no access to funding to start these promising businesses that would
have grown to become world class brands in the nearest future. Banks in
Nigeria are reluctant or unwilling to give loans to start-ups and where
they do, the resultant high interest rates and the issue of collateral
are discouraging for would-be entrepreneurs. The Central Bank of Nigeria
(CBN) should formulate a policy where Banks are required to give
interest-free loans without cut-throat requirements to viable business
ventures and ideas including start-ups to encourage the establishment of
small and medium scale enterprises which constitute the engine of the
economy.
Aside the
challenge posed by lack of finance, Nigeria is still grappling with
inadequate infrastructure which hampers business ventures and
entrepreneurial development. Many towns and cities experience erratic
power supply and this hampers business growth. Power must be improved to
encourage people to venture into business ventures and create jobs. In
the same vein, several parts of the nation have poor road network which
slows business down leading to heavy loss of man hours which would have
been converted to wealth. The government has a duty to rehabilitate
interconnecting road networks and also to link up more communities by
constructing more roads to fast track business activities.
To
stem the tide of perennial unemployment in the nation, various
governments have at various times set up entrepreneurship and
empowerment programs for the youths in several parts of the country and
it is said that many youths have benefitted from these programs but due
to the problem of corruption and impunity, many of these gestures have
not really benefited the people they are meant for. Also, the Nigerian
population is growing at a geometric rate and these efforts by
governments appear insignificant in the quest to reduce youth
unemployment and restiveness to the barest minimum. To tackle
unemployment and create lasting job opportunities for the youths, there
is the need for a policy shift by government towards massive employment
generation as well as the reorientation of the average Nigerian on the
need to imbibe entrepreneurship spirit in order to create jobs and
diversify the economy.
China
is now a technological world giant and a conduit through which finished
goods are manufactured and exported to various countries of the world.
But China did not just achieve this feat overnight. It took several
years of planning by the government, massive funding and investments and
their continuous encouragement of business enterprises and
entrepreneurship by their citizens. Nigeria can do same if the
government can continuously create that enabling environment for
businesses and entrepreneurship in the country. Nigeria has great
untapped potentials and we have the potential to be like China and even
better than them if only we have the right governments who would make
drastic changes to the nation and make the right sacrifices that will
benefit the nation.
Entrepreneurship
is undeniably a potential source of wealth for both individuals and the
nation and if properly harnessed, it has the capacity to engage the
youths and provide employment for a vast majority of the populace
thereby reducing crime, insecurity and youth restiveness. If we can
develop and nurture our entrepreneurial skills, with the the enabling
environment and the right support from the government, we will sooner or
later create lasting wealth not only for ourselves but also for the
future generation. Nigeria will succeed.
Sunday, 29 July 2018
Tayo Demola: Is Aso Rock Under A Curse?
Hello people, this is actually an article I wrote sometime in March 2017. I've brought it to you once again as I feel the issues therein are still very much relevant. Pls sit back, relax & enjoy. Let's hear what you think as well!
At
this moment of our national life where Nigeria has been plunged into avoidable
economic hardship and the living standard of many Nigerians instead of
improving, has gradually deteriorated below poverty level, many Nigerians are
shocked by what they got from the Buhari government which has failed to make
any positive change in the lives of the people. And with the way we are all
astonished as to how a government that promised us heaven could turn around to
give us hell instead, many Nigerians have wondered if that Presidential Villa,
Aso Rock is truly a blessing to Nigeria or a curse.
Is
the President even aware that many Nigerians are killing themselves due the
hardship and suffering brought about by his incompetent government? Does he
even know that an average Nigerian is so disenchanted with his government that
Nigerians are now even ashamed to call him their President? Does he even know
that due to the high expectations Nigerians had of him when he was sworn in,
that Nigerians now regret voting for him in the first place? But the President
knows all these, he cannot pretend not to know but the activities of praise
singers and the enemies of Nigeria who would tell him that all is well would
not make him realize the magnitude of the public disenchantment and
disconnection of his government from the masses of Nigeria and from the reality
on the ground.
The
Nigerian government has undoubtedly been hijacked by a certain selfish cabal
who are no doubt enemies of Nigeria and who would do anything possible to
entrench their own selfish agenda on Nigeria. People like the President’s
Special adviser on Media Mr Femi Adeshina would always tell him that all is
well and that Nigerians are wailing wailers. And talking about wailing wailers,
Mr Femi Adeshina has introduced another vocabulary into the Nigerian political
arena which we shall make reference to from time to time.
But
let’s look at this critically. Does Mr Femi Adeshina have any right as a
political appointee who is paid with the Nigerian taxpayer’s money to even call
Nigerians who are complaining about bad government as wailing wailers? Does he
not know that the Nigerian masses have the ultimate power to choose whoever should
lead them and after choosing such person the people have every right to
complain about the government if their expectations are not met? Does he not
know he is a public servant and that his duty is to serve the interest of the
people and that it is completely disrespectful to call the people of Nigeria
wailing wailers?
If as
a government you have failed the people and you failed to meet up with the
expectations of Nigerians, then don’t expect Nigerians to be happy with your
government. It is completely unacceptable to continue to take Nigerians for a
ride after we have voted you into power and instead of you to improve the lives
of the people, you ended up increasing their sorrow. What sort of government is
that? I noticed that every Presidential candidate or political party in Nigeria
would always come with sugarcoated mouth and promise heaven and earth during
campaigns and the people will be so deceived into voting for them thinking they
would change their lives for the better but as soon as they get power, they
would not fulfill such deceitful promises to the people.
It
looks as if there is something in that Aso Rock that twists the head of every
President that gets there and makes him forget all the promises he made to the
people. It looks as if that Aso Rock is jinxed against the Nigerian people. It
seems to me Nigeria may never make any meaningful headway until that Aso Rock
is completely disbanded to pave way for the building of another Presidential
Villa by a Godly and properly elected Nigerian leader who would lay a good
foundation for the building of that new Presidential Villa.
It is
very clear that there are many forces militating against the performance of any
Nigerian leader who enters that Aso Rock. It is very possible that our lovely
Aso Rock which we built with a lot of money during the military era may
actually be the problem of Nigeria. If not, why do leaders suddenly turn
against the masses as soon as they’ve taken over the mantle of leadership? Why
do they say one thing and do the complete opposite of what they say? Is there
not something mysterious about that Aso Rock?
The
one thing that also amazes me is how the President allows certain people,
praise singers and cabal to hijack his government without standing up to the
occasion for the sake of Nigeria. Is the interest of Nigeria not above any
selfish personal interest? The level Nigeria is now economically shows clearly
that this government is either unprepared for leadership from the onset or
completely incompetent and therefore does not deserve to lead Nigeria any more.
Nigerians were even better off during the tenure of former President Goodluck
Jonathan and things were not so bad. We are tired of promises that will never
materialize, we want action. We want an action government that will ameliorate
the suffering of the masses of Nigeria within a reasonable period of time and
better the lives of Nigerians and any government that cannot do this should be
shown the way out of Aso Rock for another government to take over.
Nigerians
have never had it so bad and even during Jonathan’s government, the economy was
not so harsh on Nigerians. Despite all the efforts of Jonathan, we called him
clueless because he could not meet up with a whole lot of our expectations. He
didn’t fight corruption and he exhibited a lackadaisical attitude to the fight
against the Boko Haram insurgents who destroyed countless lives and property in
the Northern part of Nigeria. But while Jonathan could not do any of these and
Nigerians hated him so much and voted him out, we now have a President who we
think is fighting Boko haram and corruption but the people are dying of hunger
and committing suicide on a daily basis due to the excruciating economic
hardship in Nigeria.
But
under Jonathan Nigerians could still afford to eat what they wanted and the
cost of things in the market was never so outrageous. We called
Jonathan clueless but I bet you many Nigerians are so disappointed now that
they don’t even know what name to call the Buhari government. But this
government is worse than clueless because if in a clueless government the
people are better off and in a supposedly ‘‘non-clueless’’ government the
people are suffering, then what is means is that the Buhari government is worse
than clueless. And it is very clear that things were quite better for an
average Nigerian under the Jonathan government and despite his supposed
‘‘cluelessness’’, Nigerians even wish they never voted him out in the first
place.
If at
all you are fighting corruption and Boko Haram, this is never enough if the
people are suffering. And what manner of corruption is the government fighting
in the first place? Is the corruption fight all encompassing or is it only
against some perceived opponents and enemies? Is it only against certain people
while some sacred cows are left off the hook? What about those in the
President’s cabinet and those in the current government who have been indicted
and who should have been investigated and prosecuted if found wanting? Now we
can see that it’s the usual ‘‘paddy-paddy’’ government which our all-time
legend Fela told us from time immemorial. The fight against corruption can
never be holistic if certain people who are indicted for corruption and tainted
are still in this government without being shown the way out. It would be
hypocritical to do so and that would mean taking Nigerians for granted.
Former
President Olusegun Obasanjo recently told us that President Buhari is not good
with the economy. Now some Nigerians might take that statement with a pinch of
salt but that is the plain truth. If Buhari was good with the economy, if he
were a good manager of the economy, by now the Nigerian economy would not have
gone from good to bad and now to worse. This clearly tells us that we made a
great mistake for voting in the Buhari government into office in the first
place since he is not a good manager of the economy. It’s just like someone who
doesn’t know how to cook and you ask him to go and manage the kitchen and get a
good meal out of that kitchen, how possible is that? He will only go there and
turn the kitchen upside down and get you a badly prepared meal that will turn
your stomach upside down. That is what you get when you make the mistake of
voting in someone who doesn’t know how to manage the economy.
But
mind you, former President Obasanjo cannot be wrong on this statement because
we can all see how the Nigerian economy is being badly managed with all sorts
of trials and errors that keep impoverishing the masses the more. And the funny
thing is that the President acts as if he has all the time in the world to make
the change that we Nigerians desire.
He
acts with so much slow pace and reckless abandon as if he has ten or twenty
years more to lead Nigeria. He has forgotten that he has only FOUR YEARS to
make any impact and nothing more because it is very clear that Nigerians will
never vote for this APC government in 2019 except if Buhari is not the
Presidential candidate of the APC. The people want change and we want it in
record time and not endless promises. You don’t have to make things worse
before you make it better. Any government that makes things worse for the
people with a promise that things will get better is an incompetent government
that should be removed from office. Infact Nigerians were already tired of this
government as far back as 2016 when it started to inflict pains and suffering
on the hapless masses.
We
were promised that the fuel price which was increased will gradually come down
but nothing of such has happened. We were told that kerosene will soon get
cheaper but instead of getting cheaper, it now even costs more. And every
commodity in the Nigerian market is beyond the reach of an average Nigerian.
So
with all these failed promises and with 2019 around the corner when the
government will come up with another set of deceptive and dubious promises, we
must all ensure we obtain our voter’s cards and vote out this government since
it is clear it cannot take us anywhere. We must change this government before
it finally destroys Nigeria. Is it when everybody dies of hunger that the
change we all clamoured for will come?
By
Tayo Demola
Human
Rights Activist
Thursday, 26 July 2018
Commuter Loses Arm in Accident: An Appeal for Urgent Assistance from Well Meaning Nigerians (With Pictures Attached)
A
young man named Sunday Anyanwu from Abia State has lost his right arm
in an accident which occurred around 8.30pm on 13th April 2018 at Amje
Bus stop, around Tollgate on the Lagos-Abeokuta expressway. According to
the 34-year old Sunday, he boarded a BRT bus from Oshodi where he
worked to Sango but when they got to Amje bus stop, the BRT driver lost
control and rammed into a stationary Dangote truck that was packed
beside the road and since he was sitting by the side of the bus, the
impact was so great that it instantly cut the BRT bus and cut off his
right arm.
He was
unconscious and later admitted at the Lagos University Teaching Hospital
(LASUTH) where he was treated but the bills were too much for him and
his family to pay as they could not afford it, so he was discharged from
the hospital when he could not continue to pay the mounting bills. His
story was equally published in the Saturday Punch newspapers of July
14th 2018 at page 36.
The
hospital said he needs to undergo surgery on the severed arm to remove
some broken bones in the severed arm and in order to avoid his condition
from deteriorating further and the cost of the surgery was put at three
hundred and fifty thousand naira (N350, 000) and this was as at April
2018. Ever since he was discharged from LASUTH since he could not afford
to pay for the surgery, he has been visiting the Igando General
Hospital for the dressing of the arm every two days and spending money
and since last week he has not been able to go to the hospital to dress
the arm because he doesn't have money again.
Right
now what Sunday Anyanwu needs is to go for the surgery at LASUTH which
will take care of his situation once and for all instead of going to
dress it at Igando every two days and spending money which he cannot
even afford. He has been abandoned by the BRT bus owner who claims she
does not have money to spend on him anymore even when she is supposed to
take care of the surgery but they keep deceiving him everyday and his
situation is really critical as his health is in serious danger. We
seriously feel pity for him and that is why I have decided to share his
story with all well meaning Nigerians to come to his aid as we have
taken keen interest in his story to ensure he gets the medical care he
needs and also for him to get justice on this matter in the long run.
We
are seriously appealing to all well meaning Nigerians to please as a
matter of urgency come to his aid in whatever form you can by donating
towards the surgery of the victim Sunday Anyanwu so that he can proceed
to LASUTH as soon as possible for the surgery. We also appeal for
whatever assistance you can render in that regard because not only the
surgery, he needs total rehabilitation even after the surgery because he
is now handicapped.
We
also seek the assistance of the Lagos State government and all well meaning Nigerians to
prosecute and bring to book the owner of the BRT bus which caused the
accident leading to Sunday Anyanwu losing his right hand and thereby
making him now handicapped. This is for abandoning the victim and
refusing to take care of his surgery at LASUTH which has now
necessitated this urgent appeal.
Please
Nigerians let's join hands and be our brother's keeper. Please let's
not allow Sunday to continue to suffer and die because right now he is
in pains every day as his severed hand is currently oozing out offensive
odour every two days the moment he is unable to go to the hospital at
Igando General Hospital to dress the hand. But he requires about N5000
every two days to dress the hand at the hospital and his family have
exhausted all they have on his treatment.
Pls
kindly share this story till it gets to the right person who is willing
to assist this young man out of this situation and who has the means to
sponsor this urgent surgery which he needs right now. You can equally
donate any amount you have towards this surgery and for the total
rehabilitation of Sunday Anyanwu.
For
donations and to get our corporate account numbers, please contact us
by mail only. Send a mail to tayodemola@gmail.com and we shall forward
the account numbers to you.
God bless you as you respond and save a life.
God bless you as you respond and save a life.
For further details, kindly contact me by sending me a mail at tayodemola@gmail.com.
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Wednesday, 25 July 2018
Examining Femi Adesina's Irresponsible Statement On Cattle Colony -By Tayo Demola
I
have always said it that no responsible government will fold its hands
and watch while its citizens are being slaughtered and massacred in
their numbers. No responsible government will subtly encourage the
killing of its own citizens just to achieve its premeditated agenda of
cattle colony. No responsible government will value cows and animals
above human life. But now it is very clear to all Nigerians the hidden
agenda of the government of President Muhammadu Buhari. It is very clear
that Nigerians made the greatest mistake of their lives by voting
Buhari to manage the affairs of Nigeria.
The
recent statement credited to the Special Assistant to President Buhari
on Media and Publicity, Femi Adesina with respect to cattle colony on a
program on AIT is really unfortunate. It shows that Nigerians have been
taken for granted for too long and these people will continue to take
us for a ride and for fools if we don't show them the way out of office
by our collective will as Nigerians. When injustice thrives in the land
and the just fold their arms and do nothing, the unjust will
automatically believe that the injustice they perpetrated is right and
would continue in their acts of injustice. That is the situation we have
found ourselves in Nigeria.
Now
let us take a look at that statement by Femi Adesina: “Ancestral
attachment? You can only have ancestral attachment when you are alive.
If you are talking about ancestral attachment, if you are dead, how does
the attachment matter? The National Economic Council that recommended
ranching didn’t just legislate it, there were recommendations. So, if
your state genuinely does not have land for ranching, it is
understandable. Not every state will have land for ranches. But where
you have land and you can do something, please do for peace. What will
the land be used for if those who own it are dead at the end of the
day?”.
This type of
statement by Femi Adesina simply shows that he is reckless, senseless,
insensitive, wicked and heartless to the sufferings of Nigerians in his
quest to satisfy his pay masters and it is very clear that he is part of
the callous cabal that has held Nigeria hostage all along. But as they
say, like master, like servant. It is unfortunate that the government of
Buhari has brought untold hardship and suffering to millions of
Nigerians who thought that a messiah had come but alas we were wrong.
Thousands of innocent people have been gruesomely murdered since Buhari
took over office with empty promises to tackle insecurity for which he
was voted into office but he has failed to tackle the menace, rather
Nigerians have been massacred in their numbers in Benue and recently in
Plateau state as well as in other parts of the nation. But I'm not
surprised because that is their usual tactics; because election is
coming, so they would allow the killings so that they can use it to
campaign for another election, with another set of empty promises to
Nigerians to tackle the menace which they will never fulfill. That is
their game plan. It is a vicious circle. Their game plan is perfectly
understood.
By that
reckless statement from Femi Adesina, the Presidency has shown Nigerians
clearly that they they are indirectly in support of the mindless
killings of innocent Nigerians by fulani herdsmen across Nigeria. They
have shown us that these killings are premeditated in order to force
Nigerians to accept their idea of cattle colony and force its bitter
pill down our throats in order to satisfy their inordinate and sinister
motives. But what is ancestral attachment that Femi Adesina talked
about? Every Nigerian has an ancestral heritage in either tangible or
intangible assets or possessions resulting from their lineage and these
assets cannot be merely encroached upon or annihilated by any intruder
because the people will resist such illegality. You cannot force people
to accept what will in the long run be detrimental to their well-being
and then turn around to hoodwink us to believe that you are doing us
good, no, the people know what is good for them.
Now
when you look at that statement properly, you will see desperation
written all over that statement. You will see a Presidency that is not
only cunning but desperate to force Nigerians to either accept the idea
of cattle colony or be prepared to die! That is the import of that
reckless statement. Although we should not be surprised by Femi
Adesina's statement because he is fond of taking Nigerians for a ride
and making provocative statements. Remember it was the same Femi Adesina
that told us that we are wailing wailers. He rubbed it in the face of
all Nigerians, yet nothing happened, so it's not surprising he has now
come out again with yet another utterly disgusting statement by asking
Nigerians to either choose cattle colony or death.
Sometimes
I wonder if these people know the gravity of whatever they say and the
damage such statements can cause in the minds of millions of Nigerians.
Sometimes I wonder if they know the delicate and highly exalted position
they occupy as public servants where they are supposed to refrain from
making reckless statements and aggravating an already bad situation.
Because thousands have been killed and Nigerians did nothing, and the
families of these people have resigned to their fate since they know the
government cannot protect them, and since Nigerians are so good at
forgetting so easily, so that is why they could come up with another
denigrating verbal rhetoric just to cow us into accepting to relinquish
our ancestral heritage to some marauders who call themselves fulani
herdsmen and who have now become sacred cows in Nigeria just because
their man is at the helm of affairs of the nation and is covertly
encouraging them to continue to kill and maim in order to annihilate
territories for themselves and their sacred cows.
So
by that statement by the Presidency, it clearly shows why Buhari has
done little or nothing to stop these mindless killings in Nigeria. It
shows the mind of the president because out of the abundance of the
heart the mouth speaks. It shows that if we refuse to accept their idea
of cattle colony and ranching, they are prepared to kill as many
Nigerians as possible just to achieve their sinister agenda. But really
is this a government? A government that does not care if its citizens
are killed in their numbers? A government that is so tribalistic, myopic
and inept that it sits down and fails to take action while the people
are being hacked down in cold blood? Is this a responsible government?
It only shows one thing. It only shows Nigerians that we don't deserve
this type of government because Nigerians are much more sophisticated
and politically enlightened to be boxed into a corner with this type of
government that instead of ameliorating the pains of the people, it
rather increases their sorrows. No this is not the type of government we
want as Nigerians. This is not the type of legacy we want to leave for
our children and generations yet unborn.
Mind
you that statement by Femi Adesina should not be taken lightly by
Nigerians. There is more to that statement. It is not ordinary. It is a
well thought out, well planned and well crafted statement by the
Presidency and sooner or later, they will back that statement up with
actions that will surprise many Nigerians as it is very clear that these
people are desperate to entrench their evil agenda on hapless
Nigerians. They are ready to destroy our ancestral heritage and take
over our lands and Nigerians must resist any form of internal
colonization. Nigerians must immediately resist and reject the likes of
Femi Adesina and his misguided, myopic and arrogant postulations and
cabalistic hegemony because if he is willing to destroy his own
ancestral attachment in order to satisfy his tribalistic pay masters,
which I know he would never ever contemplate, we as Nigerians would
never contemplate such destructive tendencies to the collective
posterity of our common heritage on a platter of political patronage,
irrespective of the circumstances.
It
is now clear that the chickens have come home to roost and Nigerians
now know the type of leaders they have. By their fruits you shall know
them. We now know that it was a mistake after all to have allowed this
type of government that takes its citizens for a ride and continuously
rubs denigrating statements on our face every now and then and since
they feel we can't do anything to them, they keep making more belittling
and provocative statements to all Nigerians. But we can do something
because the power is in our hands. We can take action and we must take
action and our action is our vote which we must ensure that it counts at
the next election. We must never make the mistake of ever voting in
someone who would subtly conspire to kill innocent Nigerians just to
achieve his ethnic jingoistic ideals. Nigerians say no to impunity.
Nigerians say no to clueless leaders. Nigerians say no to obnoxious
conspiracies against the collective patrimony of our common good.
Nigerians say no to the annihilation of our collective ancestral
heritage in the name of some sacred cows. No, no, no and no we say!
TAYO DEMOLA
HUMAN RIGHTS ACTIVIST
tayodemola@gmail.com
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